“How To: Survive a Departmental Meeting”

Do you dread going to staff meetings? Do you contemplate yelling obscenities and storming out once they have started? Are you just fed up with wasting your time?

–Well if so, I have something for you — 5 easy ways to get through ANY departmental meeting! Here we go!

  • Come well rested. I am suggesting this first and foremost because these meetings can take everything out of you! If there is ever a time that you may fall asleep and be called out for ‘not caring’ or ‘being uninvested’, it is during these very moments. Don’t get caught nodding!


  • Be inconspicuous. At this point in time, it is better to be seen rather than heard. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am all for speaking up and letting your voice be heard. However, if you are like me and you just DO NOT CARE about the nonsense that tends to presents itself during weekly meetings, then this is definitely the way to go. As you slowly become incognito, think of this time as a little dose of ‘me time’. Work on your blog, online shop,  even catch up with an old friend via iMessage (on your Mac of course) or Facebook.


  • Snacks. Always bring snacks. Depending on your co-works, and the levels of pettiness that may occur within your meeting, popcorn may be your best bet. Snacks are necessary because they are multi-purposeful. They can keep you awake and energize you in your time of need. Take precaution though, there is no noisier snack than popcorn, and the smell tends to linger. It could easily be considered a “distraction”, and you don’t want that . Remember it’s best to be inconspicuous during these times


  • Have your receipts ready! I know this may be alarming, but I would be wrong if I didn’t mention this. All I can say is: “Don’t bring a knife to a gun fight”, hunni. These folks do not play fair! It is key to always come correct – with facts and supporting facts. Meetings are when most departmental drama and shade hit the fan. Don’t get caught slippin’ – your name may just get called. Have emails, call logs, and texts on deck and ready to go!


  • Always smile. This tip is more so of a reminder. The best responses, even the ones when filled and drenched in shade and shiesty-ness are best delivered with a pleasant grin or smirk. Ahh yes, kill them with kindness, boo.


– Signed, @ToBeYBEW__


5 Reasons Why People at Work Got Me F@#%ed Up

I’m about to take y’all to church with this blog – the irony, I know. The good Lord knows my heart though! Now, I don’t know about y’all but I am just about tired of the people that I work with on a daily basis.

I don’t know if it’s just me, but for some reason I do not think everyone is fully aware of the reasons as to why I go to work from day to day – a paycheck. I get it, I know there are some people out there who go to work everyday because they are passionate about the work that they do and they believe that they are called to do whatever it is that they are doing. If this is you, kudos to you and be sure to count your blessings. However, that is not my situation. I is tired; I is over-worked; and I is underpaid.

So here we go:

1. Meetings that should’ve been emails:  I am so tired of these pointless a** meetings. I mean seriously, if you just need a moment to socialize or to feel as if you have real friends, then go to a bar. Who knows, you may even get lucky. Regardless, I for one, do not feel the need to waste one to two hours of my life with these dusty people.


2. Fundatory activities: Look, if it ain’t written down in my contract and/or a part of my  job duties and responsibilities – don’t expect to see me. I do not know who these people think I am, but the last thing I want to do is spend my expendable time with them.


3. Thinking that we are friends: There is nothing that I hate more than extra friendly people in the workplace. Courtesy, cordiality, and manners are alway great and they make for a welcoming work environment. However, you expecting me to hangout with you on a weekly basis once the clock strikes 5pm is downright disrespectful. I am not your friend boo, we just work together – there’s a difference. Just let me live and work in peace and all will be well.


4. Shady emails: Let me start off by saying this: If you are feeling so bothered to the point to where you feel the need to CC/BCC my supervisor or anybody else in the department in order to make me look bad or to make a point, I suggest that you also go ahead and “@” my name on Twitter  because your sentiments are just the same. Also, while you’re at it, be mindful not to let your ‘Twitter fingers’ get the best of you and get you embarrassed. I work 8 hours a day, not 24.


5. Contacting me when I’m off the clock: I am fully aware that there are a number of workaholics in the world. However, I feel like it should be clearly stated that I am not one of them. To be completely honest, I don’t even really like y’all. With that being said, y’all really got me f#@%ed up if you think I am going to have a prolonged conversation about work and I am not getting paid for it. Write me a check or get out my face.


If you feel my pain or anything similar, be sure to share, comment, and tag a friend. Also, we wan’t to know  ‘why the people at your job got you f* up’?

– Signed, @ToBeHer__

The Introduction: To be [Young, Black, Woman, and Educated].

Young [yuhng] ; 1. Of, or relating to youth

Black [blak] ; 1. Relating to race, higher levels of melanated skin; 2. Brown skin, 3. Those who have ancestral ties to Africa.

Educated [ed·u·cat·ed] ; 1. Educated  within, or by way of, a formal institution of higher education.

Woman [wom·an] ; 1. The creator of life.

I can hear the trolls now: “Here we go again… does everything have to be about race. This is why racism still exists… and I mean, women act like they just have it soooo bad…”.

Well listen here Susan and Bob, this ain’t your typical blog and I am not the typical “sista”. I am young, Black, educated, and woman. A compilation of identities that make me invincible, irrelevant, uncompromising, and inherently misunderstood.

This blog in not only my story,  but it is a call for help, action, and encouragement for those who need it the most. We are calling out for help from those who are complicit bystanders in our times distress; we are calling for action from those who are in positions of power but choose to actively participate in our demise; and we are seeking to encourage and stand in solidarity with the women who know the blessings and curses of these very identities that we possess all too well.

As a support to those who need us the most, we stand proudly in our truths and in our identities. We will tell the stories that need to be told,  and we illustrate the the images that often ignored.

Being [Young, Black, Educated, and Woman] is not who we are despite our circumstances; Being [Young, Black, Educated, and Woman] is who are in spite of our circumstances.

– Signed, @ToBeYBEW_